We all have sleep associations, those parts of our routine in the evening that signal our body that it’s time for sleep. Whether a bath, a hot drink, or tucking your duvet around you in just the right way, there is typically some sort of ritual that you use to prime you for sleep.
What about our children? For babies, sleep associations are specific sensory experiences that they use to fall asleep and stay asleep. There are two types, those that help prime us for sleep and calm us before sleep such as a warm bath, and those that actually help us fall asleep, like a sleep position. The calming associations for your baby are what you do in their bedtime routine. The association that actually gets your baby to fall asleep is a sleep soother.
A Lovey is a sleep soother. As babies reach the 4 month mark, it’s a good thing for them to have sleep soothers they can use independently so they can fall asleep and re-settle to sleep without your help.
A Lovey is a small stuffed toy that your little one can use for comfort when falling asleep, and for resettling to sleep at night. Your baby’s Lovey is the best sleep soother they can have, and one that most little ones take to quite easily.
Younger babies (newborn to about 3 months of age) don’t need Loveys as you’ll be the one soothing them when they need to get to or return to sleep. You can start to introduce your baby to a Lovey at 4 months of age, but do not put it in the crib with them until they are consistently rolling both ways. Also, try to keep your Lovey baby-safe and smaller than your child’s head.
If your child is heading into the 12-18 month range, it’s not too late to introduce a Lovey. In fact, at this stage it will be quite useful, and they will take to it well.
How to select and introduce a Lovey:
- Choose a Lovey that is small enough to take with you in your diaper bag and that is not a risk for suffocation.
- Keep your eye on a replacement, or buy two and stash one safely away.
- Have mom sleep with the Lovey tucked in her pyjama top for a couple of nights before introducing it to baby.
- Introduce it by giving it to your child every time they fuss whether it be from pain, irritation, or tiredness.
- Give your child a hug, comfort them, and tuck the Lovey into their body, offering a cuddle with the Lovey cuddled in between you and your child